HOW TO SAFEGUARD KIDS FROM SEXUAL GROOMING
Rid of my Disgrace | Justin and Lindsey Holcomb
Parenting Tip: When engaging your child in conversations of any kind – stay calm, and listen and NO lecturing. Above all, show and tell them you love them. Give lots of empathy, not sympathy.
There is nothing more powerful than the love we show our kids. Nothing will work without it!
HOW TO TALK TO YOUR KIDS WHEN A SPIRITUAL LEADER HAS A MORAL FAILURE
Parenting Tip: Among the initial questions parents or educators use to trigger a productive discussion is to calmly ask these questions:
-What have you seen?
-What have you heard?
-What do you think about this behavior?
-How does it make you feel?
The discussion can then lead to exploring what similar behaviors they might have seen in friends, family, or acquaintances at home or in school.. Parents should keep in mind that such conversations are not a one-shot event, but a process that ideally can become an important tool in shaping our children’s moral development.
Common Emotions and Symptoms of Sexual Abuse
Common Emotions: Anxiety, Despair, Guilt, Shame, Fear
Common Symptoms: Suicidal tendencies, Withdrawal from and mistrust or fear of adults and authority figures,
Hypersexuality and promiscuity, Avoidance of sex and physical touch, Problems with sleep or fear of going to bed, Nightmares and/or flashbacks, Self-harm, Addictions to drugs, alcohol or food, Unusual sexual behavior, Phantom pain, Chronic Pain, That something is fundamentally wrong with them, Personal responsibility for the abuse or assault, Worthlessness, unworthiness, or dirtiness, Difficulties with intimacy and trust, Personality disruptions, Attachment issues, Sexual dysfunction and fertility issues, Prostitution, Depression. Sexually abusing other children
(35% of child sexual abusers were abused themselves as children)